Progress on Wedding Stuff
Well this was the week of wedding stuff. K and I went to a cake tasting yesterday. Now while this sounds like a lot of fun, it was not actually that fun. We did get cake, but only small amounts. We had to look at more cakes and decide on what the cakes were going to look like. We also made out most of the save the date cards. These cards tell people that are out of town when they need to be here. The actual invites will be sent out latter. This week we also got our rings, found a church, registered, started the looking for a house, updated out invitations list, and opened a wedding bank account. I think we are done with wedding stuff for this week.
A word about invitations; I love and adore all of you. Some of you may not make the cut. Right now, we have 230+ people on the list and we are not finished. While we feel loved, this is too many to fit in the space we have available, therefore some of you may not get to be there. It may be between you and my aunt at this point. Therefore, we are going to try to figure out who can make it and who cannot. K and I looked at the list last night and asked questions like… “Do we really need your brother to have a chair of his own? If he and your aunt time-share a seat…one of them will be up most of the time, right?”
Comments
A good rule of thumb is that 1/2 the people you invite will come. Altho, it was slightly higher for our wedding I have to admit.
Also, I better get a #$*(%& inviation since I am planning to fly from halfway around the world just to be there. So nyah.
Posted by: karen | September 16, 2004 01:07 AM
Of course, you and J made the list. Right now, there is a set of rules for people who must be on the list:
Anyone who is a parent or grandparent of the bride or groom
Anyone who I have been close to for over 10 years
Anyone who is willing to fly from another country
You made two of the three. :)
Posted by: Dan | September 16, 2004 10:40 AM
We used your rule, "Have we ever enjoyed a meal with them?"
It seems to be working fairly well for an enjoyable crowd.
Also with the faire folks, if you ask them, they will come, so that may skew your numbers.
Posted by: Brittney | September 17, 2004 09:28 AM
*smile* Best of luck working out the appropriate arrangements. I started working on a list (we could only have about 50 people in the space we wanted) for my wedding two years ago, and was so intimidated that I put it off and still haven't finished it ;)
Posted by: Arianna | September 17, 2004 09:37 PM
We were lucky in this. Surprisingly, not a lot of people travel from Lubbock (Scott's hometown) to New Orleans. Out of over 400 invitations, we had 150 people at the wedding and about half of them were family. Since watching my current friends struggle with guest lists, I'm rather glad that we lived in separate towns.
I think the general "Have I sat down to have a meal with you?" is a good initial gage. (I don't count the BBQ cast picnic where you end up at a table with someone.) Good luck in getting your list narrowed down. You're bound to offend someone, but honestly, it wouldn't be a wedding if someone isn't offended.
Posted by: Dana | September 27, 2004 04:19 PM